Women crave commitment, stability and encouragement in partners. It’s in our nature. So then why would any woman get romantically involved with a male yoga teacher?
A man who practices yoga breathes attraction. It’s true. I can’t deny a man who is in touch with his sensitive side; a man who is capable of sharing deep feelings. Physical strength isn’t that bad either. But my personal favorite, a dude who can barely touch his toes continually going to yoga on his own, trying and trying and trying. Totally adorable.
But a yoga teacher? Be cautious. The general stereotype is that they are over-sexed players. Imagine it, hundreds of post-yoga glow women in tight pants praising and pleased. It’s gratifying. I know it’s not easy out there for heterosexual men and that there are always exceptions to stereotypes. Some of my best friends are male yoga teachers. They are wonderful humans and far from being players. But I’m not going to marry them.
I need stability. The life of a yoga teacher is filled with variety, very few things are certain. Many are attracted to a life in yoga because of its freedom and they thrive on it. I need certainty. I would love a man who is consistent and constant. Having one yoga teacher in a partnership provides enough ambiguity. Could you imagine two?
Has your partner ever gotten upset that you brought work home with you? Well, yoga is not only work (and yes, there is a business aspect of yoga that I’m just learning) but yoga is a lifestyle. There are no breaks. But sometimes I just want to watch Ironman 3 and have buttered popcorn and not over analyze things or worry about my carbon footprint. Sometimes I want a break from all the mindfulness and just live life. Is that awful?
Don’t shit where you eat. Sorry for the crass phrase, but in the event that things don’t go well, I could end up divorcing myself from not only a single person but a whole kula of people. Students invest their emotions in their teachers. Just thinking that my actions with someone could cause my students and colleagues to feel disappointed in me, already breaks my heart. And yes, being a disappointment is a big fear of mine. I’m human and I’m working on it.
I know that there are many incredible, inspiring and committed men out there, many of who teach yoga. Someone could write a blog about why I must marry a yoga teacher. But ultimately I’m seeking balance. Yoga is all about balance. And no matter how people are defining marriage these days, I believe that marriage requires two complete people balancing each other’s flaws and strengths.