What if we all remembered that everyone is doing the best that they can? What if we brought that kind of remembrance and grace to each interaction with each person, in each moment? What would that look like? More importantly, what would that feel like?
To understand that kind of grace, take a moment and think of a situation from the recent past or impending future where your perception is that you are going to disappoint someone. Imagine telling the person how sorry you are but that, in fact, you are not going to be able to make it out to see them or meet the deadline or cover their shift or whatever the issue is. Now, imagine that instead of hearing all the ways in which that person is disappointed, inconvenienced or just plain put out instead what you hear is this: “That’s okay, I know that you are doing the best you can do.” How great does that feel? It feels like grace and what a sensation for the heart, for the mind, for the shoulders even. Not only does it feel amazing to be told this, it feels even more amazing to say that to someone. To set aside your own expectations, your own hopes and simply be with another soul and acknowledge that yes, of course they are doing the best that they can.
And, everything is going to be just fine.